How the Homeless Made Me Feel at Home
The homeless made me feel at home at a time when it looked like I had it together but I felt destitute inside … I grew up in New York, which has always had a homeless population — a term most people use with a mixture of pity, disgust, fear, and guilt. The homeless, who proved to be […]
Are You Getting In Your Own Way?
A dear and powerful friend of mine, Jasbindar Singh, wrote a piece about Leadership Presence called Are You Getting In Your Own Way? This article resonates strongly with me and so I’m sharing it with you. Although it is aimed at business leaders, you can apply it to many diverse situations. Let me know (email […]
The Surly Woman at the Deli Counter
Someone just told me a story of going into his local supermarket to get some fresh cold cuts. He went to the deli counter, where there were two women serving customers. One of them was not making eye contact, and generally conveyed a surly attitude. The other was smiling at customers and giving them samples […]
Fire Energy & Forgiveness Workshop
Join me in my online workshop on how to access your healthy anger and use it positively. Fire Energy & Forgiveness: How Healthy Anger Sets You Free This online e-course includes four video classes, along with an audio-only version for easy listening, and many extras. Fee: a mere $47 for potentially earth-shattering transformation 🙂 Location: […]
Anger Without Hostility – How to Fight Fair
I promised I’d get back to you about fair fighting if there was enough interest and there was … so let’s begin with an oft-quoted line from A Course in Miracles: Anger is never justified. It is an unequivocal statement which seems to leave us in a quandary. If we accept that anger is never […]
Thinning Away Like the Heel of a Threadbare Sock
A God-given Message came to me about 15 years ago: “You are thinning away like the heel of a threadbare sock.” I immediately understood this Message and knew it to be true, although it wasn’t easy to explain to someone else. Now feels like the right time to share how I came to be thinning […]
I Know You Really Love Me
For most of my life, I assumed there was something deep, dark and shameful about myself that would make people recoil in horror from me, if they really got to know me. This belief was unconscious, and it actually took a lot of work for me to admit this to myself. It was necessary, because […]
It’s Irresponsible NOT To Be A Millionaire
If you don’t like who has the money, get some of it yourself! I’ve always made a modest income and managed to live quite nicely. But last October I bumped into my budget and saw that it was not covering my expenses. Ummm, how did that happen? Oh, all the usual ways. Maybe we can […]
5 Reasons to Keep the Faith
It’s easy to feel “God’s not listening,” “God doesn’t care about me,” or even, “God doesn’t exist.” I was raised as an atheist. But I was also a child of the ’60s. The psychedelic art of Peter Max, psychedelic music of the Grateful Dead, and psychedelic drugs that were a norm at parties and sit […]
Your Words Are In Your Body
Your words are in your body. A writer’s best thinking arises from your organs, not your brain. Your stories are not warehoused between your ears. Like most, you probably assume your stories are warehoused between your ears. But to rely solely on your brain, my friend, is holding you back. The best way to develop […]
Shekinah, Divine Feminine and the Holy Spirit
One night, when I was teaching A Course in Miracles in New York City, we had a guest from Israel. About an hour into class, I referred to the Holy Spirit as “He” and she bolted upright with surprise! “He?” she said, making sure she heard me right. “Yes,” I answered, “The Course is written […]
Herein Lies the Mother Lode
The dictionary defines “mother lode” as a principal vein or lode of a region; a rich source of something. Urban slang uses “motherload” to mean big winnings or hitting the jackpot. Your journal introduces you to your real self. There is so much more to you beneath the surface. We are not raised to explore […]
“No” Is the New “Yes!”
Figure out what you don’t want to find out what you do want. “Small” is the new “big.” “Orange” is the new “black.” “40” is the new “20.” And “No” is definitely the new “Yes!” I notice that when I ask my clients what they want in their lives, 99% of the time they answer with […]
Stop Explaining Yourself
It undermines your self-confidence and is a form of self-betrayal. Enthusiastically, “I was offered the job at the local hospital that I applied for!” Lukewarm, “Oh … are you going to take it?” Dampened enthusiasm, “Yes! I’ve been hoping against hope I’d get the position.” Subtly accusing, “You didn’t tell me you wanted that job.” Awkward […]
Feeling Sorry for Yourself Can Be Healthy
Just for now, let it be all about you. I love feeling sorry for myself. What progress! I used to be someone who was so good at controlling my emotions that I didn’t even know I was doing it. The truth is, those of us who are reluctant to feel sorry for ourselves are the ones […]
I Would Have Been A Dancer
If my mom hadn’t been so sad, and my dad hadn’t been so scared, they would have noticed that I loved to dance. If my mom hadn’t been so depressed, and my dad hadn’t been so oppressive, they would have taken me for dance lessons. If my mom hadn’t been so blue, and my dad hadn’t […]
To Love or To Be Loved
Is that the question? Or is there a third way … Black and white thinking is a hallmark of the brokenhearted and tormented. When Hamlet pondered, “To be, or not to be — that is the question” he was contemplating suicide (his love for Ophelia being one of several reasons) without taking into account what I call the […]
On Mother’s Day: For Those of You Who Do Not Have Children
If you do not have children, and find Mother’s Day a painful reminder of that, I am here to hold your hand. Maybe you have nurtured and, yes, mothered people, but no one counts you as a mother, because you do not have children. Maybe you have taken yourself for granted, and not even realized how […]
The Healing Power of Red Traffic Lights
Most drivers prefer the green traffic light. Green says “go,” “smooth sailing,” “on schedule,” “won’t be late,” “accelerate” … and if you catch a series of them, “I’m on a roll!” “wheeee,” “this is my lucky day,” “maybe I should buy a lottery ticket,” and other magical thinking 😉 Yellow says, “you are about to be interrupted,” […]