I Have A Reputation For Making People Cry

Or, how a sea of salty tears could save 7.442 billion lives It’s one of the few things of which I am most proud. Frequently Heard Comments: “I knew I shouldn’t have put on my eye makeup before coming here!” “Two blocks from your office and the tears are flowing!”...

read more

What Happens When You Turn a Thief …

What happens when you turn a thief into a recipient of a gift? Radical innocence, radical generosity, radical kindness. When I was just getting started as a psychotherapist, I rented a room in a shared office space in Park Slope, Brooklyn. It was on the ground floor...

read more

How To Confront Problems If You Hate Conflict

Instead of putting off what needs to be said, try these tips You may have been ruminating for days, weeks, months, even years — rehearsing a conversation you still haven’t been able to begin. It could be about your relationship, your career, your spiritual journey,...

read more

A Better Way to Say, “I Miss You”

There is a way to be together even when you’re far apart. There was a time in my life when I was separated from someone I loved because he had to do military duty in Iraq. We were able to text and send letters and occasionally we even spoke on the phone. But even so,...

read more

8 Ways To Be a Good Listener

and what’s in it for you Have you ever been talking to someone who is looking around the room while you speak? Or who interrupts you to say something about a completely different subject? Maybe you were confiding in a friend who seemed distracted and when you accused...

read more

Your Children Do Not Belong To You

Your children do not belong to you is not a lecture, but a loving reminder: You are the earthly guardian of your kids. You are not their owner. Treasure the 18 years or so that they are directly under your care, because if you pay attention, it is you who receives the...

read more

Dare To Say Nice Things To Strangers

Sharing a true New York moment I stopped into a local Soho deli for a late afternoon snack. It was my usual spot, owned and operated by an elderly, hard-working, not-overly-friendly husband and wife team. As I stood on line at the sandwich counter, a man queued up...

read more